30 Thoughts on Turning 30

Today I officially exit my twenties and embark on a new decade of life. Today is my thirtieth birthday. Reflecting back, my twenties was where I found myself. I went through an abundance of bad boyfriends, weird dating experiences, stresses of schools, and some substantial career moves. It was in my twenties that I made some life long friends, moved out on my own, fell in love and got engaged. These are the experiences that made me into who I am today.

I used to really hate the idea of getting older. I was the person that had a quarter life crisis at twenty-five. So you can only imagine how I handled the months approaching my thirtieth birthday. However, a coworker recently gave me some advice and words of wisdom on getting older. She told me that age is a privilege that some do not get to experience. We often taken it for granted and sometimes even see it as a negative. Things like wrinkles, fine lines, age spots and grey hair are covered up and hidden when they should be celebrated. I want to live in my thirties with this frame of mind and enjoy getting older.

So, in honour of my thirtieth birthday and turning a year older, I thought I would share my thirty thoughts on turning thirty.

  1. It is important to spend more time with my family, especially my parents. As I age, they age and I want to enjoy the time we have together now.
  2. I want to practice true forgiveness with my friends and family. Sometimes the people we love the most hurt us and it sucks. I need to remember that we’re all human and truly allowing wrongs to be righted means forgiving with our whole heart and moving forward.
  3. I’m more focussed on my personal life now that I’ve achieved some of my bigger professional goals. My twenties was all about graduating near the top of my class and making big career moves. I feel really accomplished and satisfied in that aspect of my life now and am devoting more time and attention to family, friends and my fiancé.
  4. Now that I’m engaged, I want to take my time and enjoy wedding planning. I don’t want to rush a single flower arrangement, cake tasting, or dress fitting. Among (hopefully) starting a family, I want wedding planning and getting married to be a highlight of my thirties.
  5. Practice being gentle with myself. I often beat myself up when I stray off track from achieving a goal I’ve set for myself. It’s ok. Failure is part of success and I need to remember that.
  6. I want to be present and live in the moment. The last thirty years of my life passed by very quickly. The older you get, the quicker it passes.
  7. I want to surround myself with people that are genuinely happy for me.
  8. One of the most valuable lessons that I learned in my twenties was to focus on myself and my own path in life. While I’m super happy when friends and family reach goals in their lives, I stopped measuring myself against their successes. My goals and the timing of my successes are unique to my life.
  9. I’m realizing more and more that my mother was right about a lot of things she told me when I was stubborn and in my teens and early twenties. This one is a little hard to admit, but true.
  10. I’ve never experienced a great love like the one I have with my fiancé. I want to hold on to it as tight as I can and enjoy it. He is truly my person and I appreciate him more and more each day.
  11. I really do enjoy the little things in life more. New bed sheets, snuggling inside during a thunderstorm, the smell and feel of a new book. These are the things that bring me bits of joy.
  12. In my thirties I want to second guess myself less. This is a nasty habit I have and one I’d like to be rid of. I have a good sense of intuition and need to trust it more.
  13. Keeping up with an exercise routine is important not only for physical health but also for mental health and mood. I’m happier when I exercise and that happiness is passed on through my daily relationships and interactions.
  14. Saying “no” has become a lot easier. Life is not about pleasing everyone around me. It’s about doing what I want to do and staying true to myself.
  15. I’m definitely more of a homebody the older I get. My partying and club days are long gone and I’d much rather be curled up with a good book or watching a movie with my fiancé.
  16. The group of people I am close with is so much smaller and I think that’s completely okay.
  17. Even though I’m 30, people still ask me for ID. I guess I still look young.
  18. Cooking is something I enjoy doing more and more as I get older. I love creating something from scratch and then watching my fiancé enjoy it. It just always makes my heart happy to see.
  19. My home is my sanctuary. I always want my home to be tidy and homey. A place that my fiancé and I can return to after a long say at work.
  20. Communication is super important. I want to be clear with what I want to say and not overcomplicate the message or meaning. The simpler, the better.
  21. It doesn’t matter how people see me, but how I feel inside.
  22. My tolerance for drama and people that radiate drama has completely disappeared. It just feels exhausting to be around.
  23. Making more money will not make me feel like I have enough money. The feeling of abundance has to be accomplished in a different way.
  24. Even though I’m thirty, I want to maintain a sense of child-like wonder. I want to remember the truths I’ve learned, but be open to the idea that they will become undone by new discoveries.
  25. Any situation can be turned into an opportunity for personal growth.
  26. Less is more and that will always be true.
  27. Hangovers are no longer an option. Unless you’ve had a hangover at age 30+ you won’t have any idea how brutal it is. These days I’m limiting my drinking and feel much better for it.
  28. No matter how many birthdays I have, I will always be a fan of 80s, 90s, and early 2000s pop and boy band music.
  29. Practicing gratitude more. I want to start keeping a gratitude journal and regularly writing down the things I am most thankful for. That way, even on the craziest days, I can reflect on what is more important in my life and be grateful.
  30. I’m only thirty, so the best is yet to come.

5 thoughts on “30 Thoughts on Turning 30

  1. Happy Birthday, Marisa.
    I just opened my blog today and the first blog post that I saw was yours. I am able to connect and resonate with everything that you say here. I just feel it. Love this post a lot! Very raw and genuine. Thanks for sharing this. 🙂 ❤

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